Disclaimer: I’m not gonna lie. this one might spark some debate. But I am genuinely curious. Because there have been a couple examples of this in my life the last few months, and I’m just wondering, as all women eventually do, is it me?
Guys, am I missing something? When a woman tells you that she can’t do something “manly”, do you really think she wants to know how to do it, or is she just asking for your help?
Case and point…if a woman says, “I can’t put that shelf up there” and doesn’t follow that up with, “tell me how to do it”… isn’t she really asking for you to do it, or is it lost in translation? Shouldn’t the male come to her “rescue” and offer help instead of telling her how exactly to do it? Or am I just old-fashioned?
I get it. We live in THAT society where a woman may actually want to know how to do something, step-by-step, to better herself and not rely on a man to help…she may actually want to know how to take care of the problem herself. But if that were the case, do you think she’d be asking you, or would she do what any normal gal would do and google it?
And I also know that there is a communication barrier between the sexes. That women tend to not want to ask for help, because society deems that they “should” be able to do it themselves without aide from anyone, especially a man. And most men that I know are very simple…they see a problem and want to “fix” it, step-by-step…that, if not prompted, will answer a simple request with a simple answer. But somewhere between the subtle nuances of independent women not wanting to ask a man for help, and a man not knowing whether to offer instruction or help, the communication ceases.
Because even though I strive to be an “independent” women, sometimes it’s just so nice when someone offers to help instead of telling me step-by-step how I can do it. Because, sometimes, a woman just wants to be “rescued” without having to tell him to.
